pro tip: when someone says they feel a certain way

- DON'T dismiss it
- DON'T say anything beginning with 'you only feel that way because...'
- DON'T patronize them
- DON'T EVER EVER FUCKING EVER tell them that they shouldn't feel that way OR WORSE YET THAT THEY DON'T ACTUALLY FEEL THAT WAY

BECAUSE THAT SHIT IS DISRESPECTFUL AND DEGRADING AND do you even fucking know what you are doing. you are erasing them. you are dismissing their very fucking real feelings and by that you are DISMISSING THEM AS A HUMAN BEING. YOU ARE TREATING THEM AS IF THEY'RE NOT PEOPLE.

if you do that then really, you REALLY need to reconsider your actions and stop acting like scum.